Lynn C. Thompson for the World's Biggest Scum-bag Award.
My husband was very excited to receive his machete in the mail a few months ago. Do we need a machete? Not until the Zombies invade, but that's beside the point. The point is that when I opened the Cold Steel catalog that came with the aforementioned HUGE knife, I was greeted with a photo of an absolutely gorgeous leopard being tugged along by a red-faced, chubby, middle-aged man who looked absolutely thrilled to have just killed the majestic creature with a HANDGUN. On the catalog's reverse side, there is a video listing of Lynn's hunting expeditions. Oh yes, this hulk of a manly man managed to take down lions, elephants,hippos, and many many more. Furthermore, the lone ninja has several videos of himself beating up his younger staff members who were forced to stand still for his "demonstrations". That takes prowess, my friends. So he has earned my nomination for Biggest Scum-bag. Here's a link so that you can drool over his many hunting and cultural conquests:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WseQcaiy8V4
Seriously, if you ever buy a knife and have any principles whatsoever, please don't buy from Cold Steel. This guy is nauseating.
Friday, July 2, 2010
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Well, poop
I have been on the fence about cloth diapering for some time now, and I think that I'm finally going to take the plunge and invest in a startup stash. It all started with Noah getting a diaper rash. Brand switching has proven useless and zinc products aren't helping and seem to be making things worse because my kids have very sensitive skin and don't handle fragrance well. I figure that with cloth diapers, I'll know exactly what is up against their skin. The article that Zookeeper posted about chemical burns and Pampers kind of cinched the deal.
I've been Ebay-ing trying to find some good deals on AIOs, because my time is a bit eaten up as it is between kids, school, housekeeping, and hanging out with Miles. Not that I'm complaining-- I just don't have a lot of time and energy to deal in folding and, truth be told, I am overcoming something that I'm intimidated by in simply starting to cloth diaper. In a country where you are alloted 100 liters of trash for every 2 weeks (not that much) I think that this will cut our trash in half, which is nice.
I've also been researching hand washing laundry. I've started line drying clothes, and I like the whole process and smell of sunshine that they hold after a few hours of hanging. I ordered a Rapid Washer DIY Washing Machine. It was pretty inexpensive and I think that doing this could be a fun and productive way to pass time while watching Lea play in the yard.
Things have been going well. I am endlessly thankful for the fact that I get to stay home with my children. I know so many women who simply don't have the options that I try not to take for granted. Breastfeeding has also been going without a hitch. Noah's a chubby boy and has grown into a jolly little fella. He's very content and usually just wants to be cuddled.
Lea's shifting out of her unreasonable stage and has been a lot easier to talk to and calm down. She hasn't hit or scratched in months and she's a great big sister. She's given up one of her favorite toys because Noah likes to suck on it and that was a big deal for her. She loves him so much.
Miles and I are talking about him getting out of the military after this enlistment period. We have a few acres in Vermont and we want to build a house and settle down there. I love the area and my stomach actually hurts when I think of how badly I want a permanent home. This will take years to hash out, so I'll leave it at that.
I've been Ebay-ing trying to find some good deals on AIOs, because my time is a bit eaten up as it is between kids, school, housekeeping, and hanging out with Miles. Not that I'm complaining-- I just don't have a lot of time and energy to deal in folding and, truth be told, I am overcoming something that I'm intimidated by in simply starting to cloth diaper. In a country where you are alloted 100 liters of trash for every 2 weeks (not that much) I think that this will cut our trash in half, which is nice.
I've also been researching hand washing laundry. I've started line drying clothes, and I like the whole process and smell of sunshine that they hold after a few hours of hanging. I ordered a Rapid Washer DIY Washing Machine. It was pretty inexpensive and I think that doing this could be a fun and productive way to pass time while watching Lea play in the yard.
Things have been going well. I am endlessly thankful for the fact that I get to stay home with my children. I know so many women who simply don't have the options that I try not to take for granted. Breastfeeding has also been going without a hitch. Noah's a chubby boy and has grown into a jolly little fella. He's very content and usually just wants to be cuddled.
Lea's shifting out of her unreasonable stage and has been a lot easier to talk to and calm down. She hasn't hit or scratched in months and she's a great big sister. She's given up one of her favorite toys because Noah likes to suck on it and that was a big deal for her. She loves him so much.
Miles and I are talking about him getting out of the military after this enlistment period. We have a few acres in Vermont and we want to build a house and settle down there. I love the area and my stomach actually hurts when I think of how badly I want a permanent home. This will take years to hash out, so I'll leave it at that.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
I have been a bad blogger lately. I've been feeling like the days just blend together. Miss Lea wakes me up first thing in the morning and the next thing I know, I am noticing that it's past midnight and I should catch a few hours of sleep. Everything in between has been going really well, though. Just fast. Miles and I celebrated four years of marriage. Lea's got me caught between frustration and infatuation (with love underlying it all). Noah's transformed into quite the jolly fellow. Nursing is going very well, which is a relief. He's huge!
I had to Old Yeller a friendship that was based on a lot of falseness. I hate it when I invest time and energy into someone only to find that they're not at all what I've thought. I won't air someone else's dirty laundry, but I do wish that I could make some friends around here who don't have any huge skeletons in their closets. I'm bummed about that one. It left me feeling confused and more than a little naive.
I think that we're going to try to move to upstate NY next. We have a little over a year before that can happen, but I am excited about the idea of going back to Ft Drum. They have great rock climbing, the Adirondack mountains, and most importantly, it's in between our families. We won't have to miss weddings because of ridiculous plane ticket prices. I'll be able to hang out with my brother and watch my niece grow up. I won't have to live in constant fear that something will happen to Shell's parents and I won't be able to say goodbye or even pay my respects.
Roscoe was placed a few weeks ago. I'm happy for him but I hope I never see him out and about because I don't think I would do so well at holding myself together.
I've been trying to get into shape. I'm not out to lose any weight but I think it would be super duper if I could tone up. I have been especially fond of our little rebounder. It's really fun and it'll leave you sore for days if you're not careful. I discovered that one morning after I overdid my workout. I could barely walk.
That about sums things up.
I had to Old Yeller a friendship that was based on a lot of falseness. I hate it when I invest time and energy into someone only to find that they're not at all what I've thought. I won't air someone else's dirty laundry, but I do wish that I could make some friends around here who don't have any huge skeletons in their closets. I'm bummed about that one. It left me feeling confused and more than a little naive.
I think that we're going to try to move to upstate NY next. We have a little over a year before that can happen, but I am excited about the idea of going back to Ft Drum. They have great rock climbing, the Adirondack mountains, and most importantly, it's in between our families. We won't have to miss weddings because of ridiculous plane ticket prices. I'll be able to hang out with my brother and watch my niece grow up. I won't have to live in constant fear that something will happen to Shell's parents and I won't be able to say goodbye or even pay my respects.
Roscoe was placed a few weeks ago. I'm happy for him but I hope I never see him out and about because I don't think I would do so well at holding myself together.
I've been trying to get into shape. I'm not out to lose any weight but I think it would be super duper if I could tone up. I have been especially fond of our little rebounder. It's really fun and it'll leave you sore for days if you're not careful. I discovered that one morning after I overdid my workout. I could barely walk.
That about sums things up.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
What's been up
We've been doing alright. Lea and I miss Roscoe, but she's been asking for him less and less. Such is the loyalty of a two year old, right? A German police officer came by the other day to ticket us because it turns out the man did want to press charges. Upon finding out that we no longer have him, the police officer left without giving us a citation. It made me feel a little better about the way things went.
We've been working in the garden every chance we get. I have made three new beds and extended another. Poor Miles did something terrible to his lower back while weeding. We've planted tomatoes, eggplant, cucumbers, several types of peppers, lavender, strawberries, raspberries, and a few shrubs. I planted mint and mushroom rosemary last year and they both conspired and took over an entire bed this spring! We FINALLY finished Lea's playhouse and bought her a little slide.
I'm trying to get a referral to a neurologist because of these daily killer headaches that I'm getting. I think they're migraines because they feel like pressure and my vision is doing some crazy things (straight lines twitching, blind spots, light flashes, etc). They're getting to the point where I have trouble functioning during their peak hour (around noon or 1) so I'm caving and getting an appointment. I am just hesitant to go because. . . well, I hate going to the doctors. It seems like I never get out of there without an extended hospital stay.
I've been walking a lot. We have these amazing woods that start two blocks away from our house and with the weather as nice as it's been, I can't get enough of them. It's a good thing that Lea's a tomboy and that Noah likes his baby sling because we've been having a blast tromping around.
Lastly, I am going to start selling Pampered Chef. Starting up was too good a deal to pass by and there are no obligations involved. On top of that, I love to cook and I love their stuff. I'm probably only going to do like one party every month or two, but I plan on having fun. If it doesn't work out, I still got $500 worth of cooking supplies for $150. Yay!
We've been working in the garden every chance we get. I have made three new beds and extended another. Poor Miles did something terrible to his lower back while weeding. We've planted tomatoes, eggplant, cucumbers, several types of peppers, lavender, strawberries, raspberries, and a few shrubs. I planted mint and mushroom rosemary last year and they both conspired and took over an entire bed this spring! We FINALLY finished Lea's playhouse and bought her a little slide.
I'm trying to get a referral to a neurologist because of these daily killer headaches that I'm getting. I think they're migraines because they feel like pressure and my vision is doing some crazy things (straight lines twitching, blind spots, light flashes, etc). They're getting to the point where I have trouble functioning during their peak hour (around noon or 1) so I'm caving and getting an appointment. I am just hesitant to go because. . . well, I hate going to the doctors. It seems like I never get out of there without an extended hospital stay.
I've been walking a lot. We have these amazing woods that start two blocks away from our house and with the weather as nice as it's been, I can't get enough of them. It's a good thing that Lea's a tomboy and that Noah likes his baby sling because we've been having a blast tromping around.
Lastly, I am going to start selling Pampered Chef. Starting up was too good a deal to pass by and there are no obligations involved. On top of that, I love to cook and I love their stuff. I'm probably only going to do like one party every month or two, but I plan on having fun. If it doesn't work out, I still got $500 worth of cooking supplies for $150. Yay!
Friday, April 9, 2010
bye, friend
Last week, I had brought Roscoe outside to brush him because he was blowing his coat with the onset of spring. I had him by the scruff with his collar off so that I could brush there, too. He saw something that caught his eye, twisted away from me, and took off down the street. I grabbed his leash in the usual ruse that sometimes works in getting him back. He sees the leash and thinks it's walk time! Anyways, it didn't work and he foiled any and all attempts to get him. I went back into the house and fed Noah because Ros usually comes back after his tour de neighborhood (and the boy was hungry), but I had a bad feeling and sent Miles out to look again. I soon got a call from him saying that Ros was across the street. As I got up to look out the window, I saw a little girl riding bikes with her dad. Then I heard snarling. I got outside just in time to see Roscoe knock the girl's bike over and jump at her. The man kicked him away and Ros attached to his shoe. When he saw Miles coming, Roscoe ran back down the street. Miles left me to chase after him, and the man chewed me out, screaming "hund kaput" and motioning to where Ros had knocked down the girl and bitten his shoe.
I have mentioned a few times that something like this was a worst nightmare concerning Roscoe. According to German law, a dog that even bites clothing should be put down. We could have been sued by that girl's family (even though she wasn't physically hurt) for emotional damages. The man would have been within his rights to call the polizei. Miles could lose rank.
I found a shelter that is not only no kill, but that doesn't accept dogs once it's reached capacity, meaning they never transfer animals. I had to pay them a few hundred dollars to get Ros in there, but I think it was the best I could do for him. Glossing over what happened, I told them that he could be very aggressive and that he should go only to experienced pet owners. He has his own kennel which is huge and is indoor/outdoor. He'll be walked every day and let into a yard for two hours a day. They also put their dogs through obedience training before they go to new homes. It was the best that I could do for my old friend because we absolutely couldn't keep him any longer. Miles and I have has this argument for long enough and I knew it was time for me to let it go.
I feel like maybe I am bad at training dogs. I've housebroken quite a few dogs, and I am good at teaching them basic commands, but I think that a better trainer would have been able to do something with Roscoe. I feel like a failure and I miss my dog. I have had him for five years and I base entire periods of my life on our time together. Of my two years in DC, he is what I think of because he was where I focused all of my energy. When Miles was deployed, Roscoe rode shotgun wherever I went. Each time I was pregnant, it was Roscoe who curled up against my stomach. He is in a vast majority of family photos. I can't even look at them right now.
I have mentioned a few times that something like this was a worst nightmare concerning Roscoe. According to German law, a dog that even bites clothing should be put down. We could have been sued by that girl's family (even though she wasn't physically hurt) for emotional damages. The man would have been within his rights to call the polizei. Miles could lose rank.
I found a shelter that is not only no kill, but that doesn't accept dogs once it's reached capacity, meaning they never transfer animals. I had to pay them a few hundred dollars to get Ros in there, but I think it was the best I could do for him. Glossing over what happened, I told them that he could be very aggressive and that he should go only to experienced pet owners. He has his own kennel which is huge and is indoor/outdoor. He'll be walked every day and let into a yard for two hours a day. They also put their dogs through obedience training before they go to new homes. It was the best that I could do for my old friend because we absolutely couldn't keep him any longer. Miles and I have has this argument for long enough and I knew it was time for me to let it go.
I feel like maybe I am bad at training dogs. I've housebroken quite a few dogs, and I am good at teaching them basic commands, but I think that a better trainer would have been able to do something with Roscoe. I feel like a failure and I miss my dog. I have had him for five years and I base entire periods of my life on our time together. Of my two years in DC, he is what I think of because he was where I focused all of my energy. When Miles was deployed, Roscoe rode shotgun wherever I went. Each time I was pregnant, it was Roscoe who curled up against my stomach. He is in a vast majority of family photos. I can't even look at them right now.
Saturday, March 27, 2010
goings on
Yesterday Miles and I were getting back from the store when we heard screaming down the road. The german shepherd that lives a few houses down had attacked a preteen girl and mauled her face. I helped her home and, being that I speak no German, there was little else I could do. In the end, the dog was put down and the girl is okay. I haven't been able to get it out of my head, though. It's a day later and I still feel sick to my stomach over the whole situation. I think that it's at least partially because I am so scared that Ros will do something like that since he decides to randomly hate people. Though I feel horribly for the girl and the people who lost their pet, on a personal level, I also feel warned. . . I don't know. I'm just rambling.
For years, I have wanted my own little craft/painting area. I finally got the inspiration and motivation to go out and get the materials needed to build a craft table in my dining room. It's a pretty large room and our furniture is white-washed pine(you can still see the knots and wood grain through a very light white paint wash). I went to the hardware store and found pre-cut pine counter tops and legs (with the leg holder things, for lack of a better term), and I made a corner table in just a few minutes. It was so inexpensive and easy that I don't know why I didn't do it a long time ago. I just have to get some white paint to white wash the table with, and it will fit right in. In a few weeks, I am going to get a sewing machine and storage for my materials. I am so excited!!
Other than that, Noah's colic is all but gone and lo and behold, there was a smiling, happy baby under all that belly gas!! Lea has been especially rambunctious lately. I took a shower with her yesterday on the recommendation from my MIL. I was sitting there thinking about how beautiful and bonding the experience was when Lea pipes up with "um. . . Lea peed? On mommy?" Oh yea, she did. Gotta love it!
For years, I have wanted my own little craft/painting area. I finally got the inspiration and motivation to go out and get the materials needed to build a craft table in my dining room. It's a pretty large room and our furniture is white-washed pine(you can still see the knots and wood grain through a very light white paint wash). I went to the hardware store and found pre-cut pine counter tops and legs (with the leg holder things, for lack of a better term), and I made a corner table in just a few minutes. It was so inexpensive and easy that I don't know why I didn't do it a long time ago. I just have to get some white paint to white wash the table with, and it will fit right in. In a few weeks, I am going to get a sewing machine and storage for my materials. I am so excited!!
Other than that, Noah's colic is all but gone and lo and behold, there was a smiling, happy baby under all that belly gas!! Lea has been especially rambunctious lately. I took a shower with her yesterday on the recommendation from my MIL. I was sitting there thinking about how beautiful and bonding the experience was when Lea pipes up with "um. . . Lea peed? On mommy?" Oh yea, she did. Gotta love it!
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Little Noah's first shot was yesterday. I'm not going to delve deeply into my views of vaccines or my reasons for doing what I do because that would call for a post that I am just too lazy to write. I am putting Noah on a very spaced out immunization schedule. This means more visits to the clinic, but only one vaccine at a time, once a month. I am omitting Hep B until he's older because I've yet to hear a valid argument as to why it's necessary for an infant to have this if he or she isn't living in a 3rd world country OR getting regular blood transfusions.
He got the HIB vaccine, and his little leg ended up swelling and he was VERY fussy for about 4 hours. I holed up with him in his room and rocked him until we both fell asleep for the night (thank goodness for comfy rocking chairs). He awoke this morning smiling and babbeling with no further symptoms. I am relieved.
I am painting Lea's room in the next couple of days. Two walls will be a light purple that I picked yesterday. I am only doing the "easy" walls facing opposite of each other since I'll have to paint it back before we leave. I am excited to make this place feel a little more like a home. I have had my doubts about living here, but it looks like we will for the next two years, so I want to make it cozy. I guess it's time to get to work!!
I started running, and while I can't say that I am very fast at all, it hurts in that oh so nice way. I get an endorphin rush every time I head out, and that's important to me since I tend to lull during the dreary months. I have to at least have a walk a day or I am almost impossible to deal with. . . like a puppy (or Roscoe for that matter).
I am going to take the kids upstairs now and see if they'll actually let me shower this morning.
He got the HIB vaccine, and his little leg ended up swelling and he was VERY fussy for about 4 hours. I holed up with him in his room and rocked him until we both fell asleep for the night (thank goodness for comfy rocking chairs). He awoke this morning smiling and babbeling with no further symptoms. I am relieved.
I am painting Lea's room in the next couple of days. Two walls will be a light purple that I picked yesterday. I am only doing the "easy" walls facing opposite of each other since I'll have to paint it back before we leave. I am excited to make this place feel a little more like a home. I have had my doubts about living here, but it looks like we will for the next two years, so I want to make it cozy. I guess it's time to get to work!!
I started running, and while I can't say that I am very fast at all, it hurts in that oh so nice way. I get an endorphin rush every time I head out, and that's important to me since I tend to lull during the dreary months. I have to at least have a walk a day or I am almost impossible to deal with. . . like a puppy (or Roscoe for that matter).
I am going to take the kids upstairs now and see if they'll actually let me shower this morning.
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Time Doing What it Does Best
Flying. Today Noah is two months old, and tomorrow I am 25. How does that work when he was born a few seconds ago? I feel like I am clutching sand here, folks. My husband and I have been married for almost four years, but that makes no sense to me since it feels like yesterday that I was stationed at Ft Drum and we were just starting to date. At the same time, I know that I have settled down so much since then. At that time, I couldn't go for a week without either taking a road trip, jumping out of an airplane, or climbing a cliff-face. My restlessness evaporated with every extra bit of responsibility that I took on. It had to happen and it was a good thing. I've never been this happy.
So updates. . .
-I can't keep clothing on my toddler. Every shirt is a battle, and pants? Forget it-- they're too easy to take off. Diapers will stay on if I'm lucky and if she's not telling me that she has to use the potty just so I take it off of her.My area rug may not survive her potty training.
-Noah is smiling a lot and even laughed this morning. He makes good eye contact and I take him to the doctor's next week and I'll find out how much he weighs. We've exclusively breastfed and have only come across minor hitches. The tip of his tongue is a little m-shaped (though he's not tongue-tied) and I think that this affects his latch. We've pretty much worked through it, though. He still cries quite a bit, but I THINK it's dying down.
-Roscoe is still naughty and the neighbor's kid is getting pet rabbits that he's keeping outside. Naturally, this is cause for concern.
-One cricket is still alive, and I have reason to believe that she ate the others. I think that Roscoe respects that and has thus chosen to let her live.
- I am reading Name of the Wind again and it still rocks my socks off.
- My husband gives me lusty thoughts (sorry if it's TMI, but this IS my blog)
So updates. . .
-I can't keep clothing on my toddler. Every shirt is a battle, and pants? Forget it-- they're too easy to take off. Diapers will stay on if I'm lucky and if she's not telling me that she has to use the potty just so I take it off of her.My area rug may not survive her potty training.
-Noah is smiling a lot and even laughed this morning. He makes good eye contact and I take him to the doctor's next week and I'll find out how much he weighs. We've exclusively breastfed and have only come across minor hitches. The tip of his tongue is a little m-shaped (though he's not tongue-tied) and I think that this affects his latch. We've pretty much worked through it, though. He still cries quite a bit, but I THINK it's dying down.
-Roscoe is still naughty and the neighbor's kid is getting pet rabbits that he's keeping outside. Naturally, this is cause for concern.
-One cricket is still alive, and I have reason to believe that she ate the others. I think that Roscoe respects that and has thus chosen to let her live.
- I am reading Name of the Wind again and it still rocks my socks off.
- My husband gives me lusty thoughts (sorry if it's TMI, but this IS my blog)
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Yah! A year in Germany
One week from now will mark one year that we have been here (longer for Miles since he came early to set up shop). When we first arrived, I was charmed. This wore off quickly when a bit of the culture shock and my distaste for extremely rude people set in. I've since gone through stages of adjustment and reached the conclusion that while Germany is a good place to visit, it's not home. The government is way too big here-- it's not the land of the free by any stretch. Sure you get free health care, child care and education, but you also get taxed up to 70 percent and you can't even carry a slingshot for home defense. So the Germans can have fun with that. I miss America. Go guns and student loans! Yeehaw
In other news, the family is doing well. We're very busy. Lea is a wonderful big sister and Noah is a cutie who is growing like a weed. He still cries a LOT, but it tones down when I hold back on dairy. I am soaking it up regardless because I know that he is our last and I'll never get this back. I am loving life and every pooey diaper that comes my way.
School is going well, but I have decided that yet another semester will be spent part time. That makes two part time semesters in a row and is under a personal goal that I set for myself, but I think that I need to prioritize. Heavy work loads make for stress which makes for irritability which makes everyone around me suffer. On the bright side, I checked out my degree audit this morning and I can see that I have only a few more semesters to go before I get my degree!
In other news, the family is doing well. We're very busy. Lea is a wonderful big sister and Noah is a cutie who is growing like a weed. He still cries a LOT, but it tones down when I hold back on dairy. I am soaking it up regardless because I know that he is our last and I'll never get this back. I am loving life and every pooey diaper that comes my way.
School is going well, but I have decided that yet another semester will be spent part time. That makes two part time semesters in a row and is under a personal goal that I set for myself, but I think that I need to prioritize. Heavy work loads make for stress which makes for irritability which makes everyone around me suffer. On the bright side, I checked out my degree audit this morning and I can see that I have only a few more semesters to go before I get my degree!
Monday, March 1, 2010
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Ferber
I was researching for a school paper on secure (versus insecure) emotional attachments and came across the Ferber method. I don't understand it and though I have not read any empirical articles telling about long term results, it doesn't mesh with anything that I have read about healthy attachment forming and development. I am in disagreement with the severity of this practice. If one of my children cried until he or she vomited, I would do more than walk into the bedroom, stoically clean up the mess, then walk out to let him or her resume the cycle. I think that 15 minutes of crying is extreme and that not being responded to makes children that young shut down-- not self-soothe (and I believe that there is a big difference between the two).
This page was actually biased in favor of the method:
http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified_7755.bc
lastly, I have to say that when I first wrote this post, I was a bit insensitive and I didn't really write the reasons why I disagree with this method. I apologize for that if anyone took offense.
This page was actually biased in favor of the method:
http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified_7755.bc
lastly, I have to say that when I first wrote this post, I was a bit insensitive and I didn't really write the reasons why I disagree with this method. I apologize for that if anyone took offense.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
February
Dar Williams
I threw your keys in the water, I looked back,
Theyd frozen halfway down in the ice.
They froze up so quickly, the keys and their owners,
Even after the anger, it all turned silent, and
The everyday turned solitary,
So we came to February.
First we forgot where we'd planted those bulbs last year,
Then we forgot that we'd planted at all,
Then we forgot what plants are altogether,
and I blamed you for my freezing and forgetting and
The nights were long and cold and scary,
Can we live through February?
You know I think Christmas was a long red glare,
Shot up like a warning, we gave presents without cards,
And then the snow,
And then the snow came, we were always out shoveling,
And we'd drop to sleep exhausted,
Then we'd wake up, and its snowing.
And February was so long that it lasted into March
And found us walking a path alone together.
You stopped and pointed and you said, "Thats a crocus,"
And I said, "Whats a crocus?" and you said, "Its a flower,"
I tried to remember, but I said, "Whats a flower?"
You said, "I still love you."
The leaves were turning as we drove to the hardware store,
My new lover made me keys to the house,
And when we got home, well we just started chopping wood,
Because you never know how next year will be,
And we'll gather all our arms can carry,
I have lost to February.
I threw your keys in the water, I looked back,
Theyd frozen halfway down in the ice.
They froze up so quickly, the keys and their owners,
Even after the anger, it all turned silent, and
The everyday turned solitary,
So we came to February.
First we forgot where we'd planted those bulbs last year,
Then we forgot that we'd planted at all,
Then we forgot what plants are altogether,
and I blamed you for my freezing and forgetting and
The nights were long and cold and scary,
Can we live through February?
You know I think Christmas was a long red glare,
Shot up like a warning, we gave presents without cards,
And then the snow,
And then the snow came, we were always out shoveling,
And we'd drop to sleep exhausted,
Then we'd wake up, and its snowing.
And February was so long that it lasted into March
And found us walking a path alone together.
You stopped and pointed and you said, "Thats a crocus,"
And I said, "Whats a crocus?" and you said, "Its a flower,"
I tried to remember, but I said, "Whats a flower?"
You said, "I still love you."
The leaves were turning as we drove to the hardware store,
My new lover made me keys to the house,
And when we got home, well we just started chopping wood,
Because you never know how next year will be,
And we'll gather all our arms can carry,
I have lost to February.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Colic
Noah has been doing really well. He is almost three weeks old now and is really filling in. At his 2 week appointment, he was 1lb above his birthweight. He has great head control and can go from side to side when put on his back. I do, however, suspect that he is developing colic. The past 2 nights have been spent trying to make him comfortable and happy as he screamed his head off for HOURS on end. He was clean, fed, burped, and warm, and nothing has worked to make him content. The three or so hours of crying generally stop at around 2am and he sleeps through the rest of the night. Lea has a white noise machine in her room that I turn on after she falls asleep (Germans are REALLY loud at the wee hours and it helps her sleep in), so she is unaffected by the ruckus. Miles has been in the guest bedroom until I can somehow move Noah from our bed to the cosleeper because he's a thrasher in his sleep and does everything to punching out in his dreams to biting (that was a pleasant surprise!!!). This leaves me, which is actually better because I don't have the compounded stress of trying to keep Noah quiet for the sake of someone else's sleep.
I am also left with the search for colic cures. . . or at least easers. I gulp down chamomile and sleepy time tea throughout the day, and I am going milk free for a while to make sure it's not that. . . if this fails, I am going to do the unthinkable and cut wheat as well. I don't drink caffeine after noon, and I really don't think that my 2 cups of morning joe cause his screaming at midnight. I have a cherry pit warm pillow that I try on his stomach, but outside of the carseat, it only serves to piss him off. I have tried leg pumping and tummy rubs, but to no avail. My pediatrician suggested Metallica, but I am not ready for that drastic a step. I would try his swing, but I haven't gotten over my hang-ups from his cyanosis episode, and I have read studies that say that a partially upright position for prolonged periods can lead to SIDS.
Poor little fella. He's a sweet, cuddly little thing and it kills me to hear him crying. Any suggestions??
I am also left with the search for colic cures. . . or at least easers. I gulp down chamomile and sleepy time tea throughout the day, and I am going milk free for a while to make sure it's not that. . . if this fails, I am going to do the unthinkable and cut wheat as well. I don't drink caffeine after noon, and I really don't think that my 2 cups of morning joe cause his screaming at midnight. I have a cherry pit warm pillow that I try on his stomach, but outside of the carseat, it only serves to piss him off. I have tried leg pumping and tummy rubs, but to no avail. My pediatrician suggested Metallica, but I am not ready for that drastic a step. I would try his swing, but I haven't gotten over my hang-ups from his cyanosis episode, and I have read studies that say that a partially upright position for prolonged periods can lead to SIDS.
Poor little fella. He's a sweet, cuddly little thing and it kills me to hear him crying. Any suggestions??
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Cricket?
I think I have thought of a pet for Lea that Roscoe won't immediately kill. . . or at least it will be tiny enough that we can hide it from him and it won't smell strongly enough for him to ever be the wiser. A pet cricket! We can get the setup and cricket at the pet store, they're easy to care for, and they all look alike, so Lea will not notice when his little life is over and we replace him. They don't live very long and I don't want her heart to break every 8 to 10 weeks.
I am a strong believer that pets teach kids so much about life. I just couldn't think of a pet that Ros wouldn't use to teach her about dissection. . .
Hmmm
I am a strong believer that pets teach kids so much about life. I just couldn't think of a pet that Ros wouldn't use to teach her about dissection. . .
Hmmm
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Rough Times
“Babies just cry a lot. It’s okay”. That’s what I always tell Lea in order to help her know that there’s no serious urgency in her baby brother’s cries (which usually only occur when you change his wee little diaper). In my mind, there should be no grave reason for a newborn to cry—it ‘s a form of communication, not an expression of sadness or pain.
A few days ago, I was folding laundry next to Noah’s swing. It was the first time that I really put him down in order to get some housework done. He had been in there for about 10 minutes before he turned dark blue around the mouth and fingers. I had been looking over at him throughout my chore and grabbed him as soon as I noticed his coloring. He startled and drew in a deep breath, but it took about 5 minutes for his color to return to normal. He felt cold in spite of the blanket and fleece sleep n’ play that covered him.
I called the Army’s nurse’s advice line and they told me to take him to the ER as soon as possible. From there, he was admitted into the pediatrics’ ward for testing and 48 hour monitoring. In one day, I heard hours of pain-filled cries from my newborn as he was pricked and tested for everything under the sun. It was by far the worst day of my life and I know for sure that it was the worst of his. My calm thoughts on the cries of newborns changed into a kind of sad panic as I sat with him through unsuccessful IV attempts and listened as they withdrew his spinal fluid.
After two days of monitoring, the test results came back clear, and aside from one additional incident where his levels went down and he was given oxygen, the stay was uneventful. I am emotionally exhausted, and Noah has been sleeping soundly for the first time in days. He was diagnosed with exaggerated cyanosis, or bluing of the mouth and extremities. I should have checked his feet and mouth coloring when this happened, but I didn’t know to.
I have a lot to be thankful for in this. I was awake when this happened, and there’s no telling what would have happened if I hadn’t startled him awake. He may have woken himself up. Maybe not. Will it happen again? There’s no telling. Machines that monitor infants with apnea have shown to cause more harm than good and are considered by the medical community as being ineffective. For this reason, we were not given one.
Dr. Sears has presented arguments that attachment parenting reduces SIDS, and perhaps the fact that I practice it will ensure that I can help Noah through any reoccurrences that he may have. I feel confident in the fact that I am doing everything that I can possibly do, but this whole thing shook our entire family in a big way. Lea and Miles were stressed for several reasons.
On the upside, Noah has been gaining weight steadily. One half of a pound in his first week! He seems to be in good health.
I am done writing for now. I’m exhausted.
A few days ago, I was folding laundry next to Noah’s swing. It was the first time that I really put him down in order to get some housework done. He had been in there for about 10 minutes before he turned dark blue around the mouth and fingers. I had been looking over at him throughout my chore and grabbed him as soon as I noticed his coloring. He startled and drew in a deep breath, but it took about 5 minutes for his color to return to normal. He felt cold in spite of the blanket and fleece sleep n’ play that covered him.
I called the Army’s nurse’s advice line and they told me to take him to the ER as soon as possible. From there, he was admitted into the pediatrics’ ward for testing and 48 hour monitoring. In one day, I heard hours of pain-filled cries from my newborn as he was pricked and tested for everything under the sun. It was by far the worst day of my life and I know for sure that it was the worst of his. My calm thoughts on the cries of newborns changed into a kind of sad panic as I sat with him through unsuccessful IV attempts and listened as they withdrew his spinal fluid.
After two days of monitoring, the test results came back clear, and aside from one additional incident where his levels went down and he was given oxygen, the stay was uneventful. I am emotionally exhausted, and Noah has been sleeping soundly for the first time in days. He was diagnosed with exaggerated cyanosis, or bluing of the mouth and extremities. I should have checked his feet and mouth coloring when this happened, but I didn’t know to.
I have a lot to be thankful for in this. I was awake when this happened, and there’s no telling what would have happened if I hadn’t startled him awake. He may have woken himself up. Maybe not. Will it happen again? There’s no telling. Machines that monitor infants with apnea have shown to cause more harm than good and are considered by the medical community as being ineffective. For this reason, we were not given one.
Dr. Sears has presented arguments that attachment parenting reduces SIDS, and perhaps the fact that I practice it will ensure that I can help Noah through any reoccurrences that he may have. I feel confident in the fact that I am doing everything that I can possibly do, but this whole thing shook our entire family in a big way. Lea and Miles were stressed for several reasons.
On the upside, Noah has been gaining weight steadily. One half of a pound in his first week! He seems to be in good health.
I am done writing for now. I’m exhausted.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Baby Noah
Okay, I am going to make this short because I am exhausted and I still have some school work to do.
On the night of the 12th, I put Lea to bed and took Roscoe for a walk. About midway, I had a healthy little contraction and I was starting to feel a bit off by the end. When I got inside, I had another contraction and decided to start timing them. Within 45 min, I went from one every 10 min to every 2 or 3. Within an hour, we were off to the hospital. Upon arrival, I was told that I was 8cm dilated. A few minutes after that, I felt like I needed to push, so I did. Noah came into the world to the sounds of my totally unrestrained screaming (umm. . . oops?) at 1248am on January 13th after about three hours of labor. He was 7lbs 11 oz, 21 inches long, 9/10 Apgar, with Freddy Cougar nails and a big voice. I wanted to go natural and am infinitely grateful for the quick labor that made it impossible for me to cave in. How different it was this time around!! Miles was a great coach. He managed to hold my hand and not look outwardly nervous by my repeated claims that I was going to die. Noah is an awesome nurser. Post labor contractions have been awful, but they are getting better.
That about sums things up!!
Miles has Noah's photos saved in his Aperture library and for the life of me, I cannot figure out how the heck to download them on here. Grrr. Friend me on facebook and I have a few on there.
On the night of the 12th, I put Lea to bed and took Roscoe for a walk. About midway, I had a healthy little contraction and I was starting to feel a bit off by the end. When I got inside, I had another contraction and decided to start timing them. Within 45 min, I went from one every 10 min to every 2 or 3. Within an hour, we were off to the hospital. Upon arrival, I was told that I was 8cm dilated. A few minutes after that, I felt like I needed to push, so I did. Noah came into the world to the sounds of my totally unrestrained screaming (umm. . . oops?) at 1248am on January 13th after about three hours of labor. He was 7lbs 11 oz, 21 inches long, 9/10 Apgar, with Freddy Cougar nails and a big voice. I wanted to go natural and am infinitely grateful for the quick labor that made it impossible for me to cave in. How different it was this time around!! Miles was a great coach. He managed to hold my hand and not look outwardly nervous by my repeated claims that I was going to die. Noah is an awesome nurser. Post labor contractions have been awful, but they are getting better.
That about sums things up!!
Miles has Noah's photos saved in his Aperture library and for the life of me, I cannot figure out how the heck to download them on here. Grrr. Friend me on facebook and I have a few on there.
Friday, January 8, 2010
duhnuhnuhnuh
Nothing yet. Each night I have the signs that labor is imminent, but as I said before, sleep takes care of everything. Without writing anything that would make my poor daddy's eyes fall out when he reads my blog, I'll just say that there has been much to indicate that labor could come any minute. . . it's just the suspense of waiting in discomfort that is getting to me. I can't really take Lea out alone at this point (I think it's a bad idea to take out a toddler who you can't easily pick up or have trouble physically controlling), which kills me because she needs more stimulation than she's had the past couple of days. Miles can't start leave until labor starts, so I am home alone at night. Bah. I just hate waiting.
Anyways, speaking of the boy, he had a little nesting episode last night. All of that baby-related stuff that I've been asking him to do was done in a couple of hours. He was so cute about it. The car seat had to be just so. Everything had to be perfectly organized. I thought it was very sweet, even though I don't think he understood my spontaneous giggle fits. While sorting through everything last night, Roscoe managed to be in everyone's way all while looking totally bewildered. . . like he's been here before but can't recall what all of this pastel colored crap could possibly mean. If he only knew.
Anyways, speaking of the boy, he had a little nesting episode last night. All of that baby-related stuff that I've been asking him to do was done in a couple of hours. He was so cute about it. The car seat had to be just so. Everything had to be perfectly organized. I thought it was very sweet, even though I don't think he understood my spontaneous giggle fits. While sorting through everything last night, Roscoe managed to be in everyone's way all while looking totally bewildered. . . like he's been here before but can't recall what all of this pastel colored crap could possibly mean. If he only knew.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Circumcision
In one of my recent classes, we had to research a subject that involved some degree of debate and present each side as unbiasedly as possible. I thought to look into some subject that I would have to research anyways to save myself time and to motivate myself to get a better grasp of the issues at hand. I chose routine neonatal male circumcision. I thought I would share because I think that both sides present some compelling arguments. I hope that in the end, you guys find this to be an entertaining, if not informative, read and take no offense at my closing opinion. Forgive any typos because this was my rough draft (my final was sadly lost somewhere in computerland).
Circumcision is a surgical procedure in which the skin (Along with mucosa, nerves, and small muscle) covering the end of the penis is removed (AAP, 2009). Although the exact frequency is unknown, it is estimated that 1.2 million newborn males are circumcised in the United States annually at a cost of between $150 and $270 million. This practice has been advocated for reasons that vary from symbolic ritual to preventive health measure (AAP, 2009).
Circumcision of males has been undertaken for religious and cultural reasons for many thousands of years. It probably originated as a hygienic measure in communities living in hot, dusty and dry environments. It remains an important ritual in several religious and cultural groups (RACP, 2009).
In the 1920s, for the first time in history, a majority of American males were to be circumcised. This was the beginning of a trend that increased over the years, and then leveled off to about 85 percent of newborn males by 1980 (Harrison, 2002). In the United States, many hospital-born male infants undergo circumcision regardless of the religious affiliation of their parents (Wallerstein, 2008). This is due in part to what is considered normal and also the belief that circumcision promoted cleanliness and disease prevention.
Documented health circumcision originated in the nineteenth century, when most diseases were of unknown etiology. During that time, a theory emerged that masturbation caused many and varied ills. It seemed logical to some physicians to perform genital surgery on both sexes to stop masturbation; the major technique applied to males was circumcision (Wallerstein, 2008). Ailments that were attributed to the foreskin included madness, muscle spasms, and sexual promiscuity.
For many who oppose neonatal male circumcision, the continuing practice of routine neonatal nonreligious circumcision in the United States represents an enigma. About 80 percent of the world's population do not practice circumcision, nor have they ever done so. Among the non-circumcising nations are Holland, Belgium, France, Germany, Switzerland, Austria, Scandinavia, Russia, China, and Japan (Wallerstein, 2008). Ironically, many pro circumcision groups argue that circumcision decreases chances for penile cancer, but incidents of penile cancer are at least .1% lower in countries that do not practice circumcision.
A number of medical societies in the developed world have published statements that do not recommend routine circumcision of male newborns. In its position statement, the Australian College of Pediatrics emphasized that in all cases, the medical attendant should avoid exaggeration of either risks or benefits of this procedure (AAP, 2009). Furthermore, many governments, including Australia’s, do not pay for neonatal male circumcision as a part of their social assistance programs.
Evidence regarding the relationship of circumcision to STD in general is complex and conflicting. Studies suggest that circumcised males may be less at risk for syphilis than are uncircumcised males. In addition, there is a substantial body of evidence that links non-circumcision in men with risk for HIV infection. There does appear to be a plausible biologic explanation for this association in that the mucous surface of the uncircumcised penis allows for viral attachment to lymphoid cells at or near the surface of the mucous membrane, as well as an increased likelihood of minor abrasions resulting in increased HIV access to target tissues (AAP, 2009). This said, the AAP goes on to state that behavioral factors appear to be far more important risk factors in the acquisition of HIV infection than circumcision status.
The following are some examples of sites representing both sides of the circumcision debate:
Medical video of the procedure (neither pro nor anti circumcision):
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-6584757516627632617#
Pro (infant) Circumcision Sites:
http://www.gilgalsoc.org
http://www.medicirc.org
Anti (infant) Circumcision sites:
http://www.nocirc.org
http://www.circumstitions.com
http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org
Generally, those who endorse circumcision do so on either medical or religious grounds (or both). Those who are against routine male neonatal circumcision argue medical claims to the operation stating that no major health organization in the world recommends the surgery as a routine norm.
Those who are pro circumcision argue for many possible health benefits. It is common thought (particularly in America) that male circumcision promotes easier hygiene. This belief is based on the fact that there are fewer creases in the circumcised penis and that a man does not have to go through the hassle of manually retracting his foreskin in order to clean the area that normally lies underneath it. Those against circumcision maintain that it is simple to clean an uncircumcised penis, as well. Modern hygiene products make it quick and easy to cleanse under the foreskin.
Individuals who promote neonatal circumcision argue that medical research has indicated that indicated a decreased risk of urinary tract infections in circumcised males. The risk of urinary tract infections in the first year is low, but these infections may be several times as common in uncircumcised baby boys (AAP, 2009). Nonetheless, those against the operation argue that chances for the infection are still very low, at 0.9% of uncircumcised infants contracting an infection in the first year of life and rates decreasing from there.
Those who are in favor of circumcision argue for the prevention of penile problems. Occasionally, the foreskin on an uncircumcised penis may be difficult or impossible to retract (phimosis) (AAP, 2009). Those who argue against the operation state that most problems with phimosis either fade with time argue in favor of milder methods of treatment such as the forced retraction of the foreskin slightly every day over a period of months, which is reported to be painless.
Decreased risk of penile cancer is also something that is a reported benefit of circumcision. Although cancer of the penis is rare, it's less common in circumcised men (AAP, 2009). Oddly enough, in countries that do not routinely practice circumcision (Japan and most European nations), penile cancer rates are lower than in America (The Circumcision Reference Library, 2009). To further arguments, those who do not support circumcision also stress the extreme rarity of penile cancer.
The most avid circumcision supporters argue for the decreased risk of sexually transmitted diseases. Safe sexual practices remain essential, but circumcised men may have a slightly lower risk of certain sexually transmitted diseases — including HIV, the virus that causes AIDS (The Mayo Clinic, 2009). Studies have not been robust or conclusive enough for major health organizations to begin supporting the operation, which is the main counter-argument of those who are against it. Other arguments for circumcision include religious ones and the desire for a child to look like his father who is circumcised. Some parents fear that their child will be scorned for his uncircumcised penis.
Those who are against neonatal circumcision stress the surgical risks involved in the operation. Excessive bleeding and infection are uncommon, but possible. The foreskin may be cut too short or too long or fail to heal properly. If the remaining foreskin reattaches to the end of the penis, minor surgery may be needed to correct it. Complication rates ranging from 0.06% to 55% have been cited, though experts predict between 3 and 6 % actually experience true complications (Canadian Medical Association , 1996).
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics' 1999 Circumcision Policy Statement, “There is considerable evidence that newborns who are circumcised without analgesia experience pain and psychological stress.”(AAP, 1999) This is another focus of those against the operation. Local anesthesia can block nerve sensations during the procedure (Mayo clinic, 2009), but the infant still cries and it is unknown what he is actually feeling. The healing process after the surgery is also painful for the infant.
As stated before, those who are against routine male circumcision stress that no national or international medical association recommends routine circumcision as a worldwide norm. That said, the World Health Organization (WHO) does state “WHO/UNAIDS recommendations emphasize that male circumcision should be considered an efficacious intervention for HIV prevention in countries and regions with heterosexual epidemics, high HIV and low male circumcision prevalence. Male circumcision provides only partial protection, and therefore should be only one element of a comprehensive HIV prevention package.” (WHO, 2009)
Lastly, many believe that the foreskin is a normal, protective, functioning organ that should not be removed and that circumcision denies a male's right to genital integrity and choice for his own body.
Both arguments present facts that can be used to strengthen each case. Considering that this is a subject involving human infants, emotions run high and each argument has the potential to become unprofessional as a result.
The evidence that male circumcision at infancy is medically beneficial is debatable and inconclusive. It seems that each argument in favor of the procedure has an equally convincing counter comment from the opposing argument that makes points in favor seem less significant. Evidence against the procedure tends to be more emotional in nature but also present a valid argument.
I believe that most parents want what they feel is best for their child and that parenting comes along with many decisions that can be quite difficult to make. Furthermore, I think that it is a staple of good parenting to make any and all decisions based on research, gathered facts, and evaluation. The opinions of a single health care provider or family members should play a lesser role. Practices need to be questioned because in spite of their popularity, common decisions are not always the right decisions.
While researching this issue, I focused on finding empirical articles and governmental/health sites that would give me access to the most accurate information. Warning signs that indicated that perhaps I should not include the site in my analysis were an abundance of emotion, accusations, and opinionated remarks. These sites were avoided.
I found the AAP (and other governmental equivalents such as Australia’s RACP) to have the most accurate and trustworthy information. They seemed generally unbiased and provided facts that influenced my final decision. Their closing statement on the subject of circumcision was that “Existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision; however, these data are not sufficient to recommend routine neonatal circumcision.” This statement helped me to solidify my opinion on the matter.
I cannot say that this research has swayed my beliefs either way. I knew quite a bit from my own personal internet meanderings when I was trying to decide about whether or not to circumcise my own son. Before that, however, I assumed there was a good reason behind the operation—I just didn’t know what it was. Now that I have more information, I have made my own decisions through my own research and that makes me more confident about my decisions as a parent.
After researching the different positions surrounding routine male circumcision at infancy, I think that each side has made some legitimate points. There are some slight health benefits to male circumcision. I do, however, agree with those who say that the risks involved in the operation, the trauma associated with it, and lack of solid evidence as to the validity of some purported health benefits al serve to tip the balance against the operation.
Furthermore, I find moral issues with neonatal male circumcision. It is the removal of an entire body part and the child has absolutely no say in whether or not he wants it to be done. In fact, videos that I downloaded which showed the operation indicate that the infant doesn’t agree with the process of foreskin removal at all.
In the end, I understand that there are benefits and risks associated with both sides of the argument and that it can feel like a no win situation for parents. I wouldn’t look down my nose at a parent making an educated decision about what to do with his or her child. As I stated previously, however, I do not believe that any practice should go unquestioned. Parents should know the facts before making their decisions.
Works Cited
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). (2009). Circumcision: Information for Parents. Retrieved November 21, 2009 from http://www.circumstitions.com/AAP-bro.html
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). (2009). Circumcision Policy Statement. Retrieved 21 November 2009 from http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;103/3/686
DeLaet, D. L. (2007). Framing Male Circumcision as a Human Rights Issue?: Contributions to the Debate Over the Universality of Human Rights. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://www.allacademic.com/meta/p179332_index.html
Fetus and Newborn Committee. (1996). "Neonatal circumcision revisited". Canadian Medical Association Journal 154 (6): 769–780. Retrieved on 29 November 2009 from http://www.cps.ca/english/statements/FN/fn96-01.htm
Harrison, Daniel. (2002). Rethinking Circumcision and Sexuality in the United States. Vol 5. Sage Publications. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://sexualities.sagepub.com.pegleg.park.edu/cgi/reprint/5/3/300
The Circumcision Reference Library. (2008). United States Circumcision Incidence. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://www.cirp.org/library/statistics/USA/
The Mayo Clinic. (2009). Pros and Cons of Circumcision. Retrieved on 22 November 2009 from http://www.mayoclinic.com/
The Royal Australasian College of Physicians (RACP). (2009). Policy Statement On Circumcision. Retrieved on 29 November 2009 from http://www.racp.edu.au/index.cfm?objectid=D7FAA93E-E091-4209-15657544BA419672
Wallerstein, E. (2008). Circumcision: The Uniquely American Medical Enigma. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://www.cirp.org/library/general/wallerstein/
World Health Organization (WHO). (2009). Retrieved on 29 November 2009 from http://www.who.int/hiv/topics/malecircumcision/en/index.html
Circumcision is a surgical procedure in which the skin (Along with mucosa, nerves, and small muscle) covering the end of the penis is removed (AAP, 2009). Although the exact frequency is unknown, it is estimated that 1.2 million newborn males are circumcised in the United States annually at a cost of between $150 and $270 million. This practice has been advocated for reasons that vary from symbolic ritual to preventive health measure (AAP, 2009).
Circumcision of males has been undertaken for religious and cultural reasons for many thousands of years. It probably originated as a hygienic measure in communities living in hot, dusty and dry environments. It remains an important ritual in several religious and cultural groups (RACP, 2009).
In the 1920s, for the first time in history, a majority of American males were to be circumcised. This was the beginning of a trend that increased over the years, and then leveled off to about 85 percent of newborn males by 1980 (Harrison, 2002). In the United States, many hospital-born male infants undergo circumcision regardless of the religious affiliation of their parents (Wallerstein, 2008). This is due in part to what is considered normal and also the belief that circumcision promoted cleanliness and disease prevention.
Documented health circumcision originated in the nineteenth century, when most diseases were of unknown etiology. During that time, a theory emerged that masturbation caused many and varied ills. It seemed logical to some physicians to perform genital surgery on both sexes to stop masturbation; the major technique applied to males was circumcision (Wallerstein, 2008). Ailments that were attributed to the foreskin included madness, muscle spasms, and sexual promiscuity.
For many who oppose neonatal male circumcision, the continuing practice of routine neonatal nonreligious circumcision in the United States represents an enigma. About 80 percent of the world's population do not practice circumcision, nor have they ever done so. Among the non-circumcising nations are Holland, Belgium, France, Germany, Switzerland, Austria, Scandinavia, Russia, China, and Japan (Wallerstein, 2008). Ironically, many pro circumcision groups argue that circumcision decreases chances for penile cancer, but incidents of penile cancer are at least .1% lower in countries that do not practice circumcision.
A number of medical societies in the developed world have published statements that do not recommend routine circumcision of male newborns. In its position statement, the Australian College of Pediatrics emphasized that in all cases, the medical attendant should avoid exaggeration of either risks or benefits of this procedure (AAP, 2009). Furthermore, many governments, including Australia’s, do not pay for neonatal male circumcision as a part of their social assistance programs.
Evidence regarding the relationship of circumcision to STD in general is complex and conflicting. Studies suggest that circumcised males may be less at risk for syphilis than are uncircumcised males. In addition, there is a substantial body of evidence that links non-circumcision in men with risk for HIV infection. There does appear to be a plausible biologic explanation for this association in that the mucous surface of the uncircumcised penis allows for viral attachment to lymphoid cells at or near the surface of the mucous membrane, as well as an increased likelihood of minor abrasions resulting in increased HIV access to target tissues (AAP, 2009). This said, the AAP goes on to state that behavioral factors appear to be far more important risk factors in the acquisition of HIV infection than circumcision status.
The following are some examples of sites representing both sides of the circumcision debate:
Medical video of the procedure (neither pro nor anti circumcision):
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-6584757516627632617#
Pro (infant) Circumcision Sites:
http://www.gilgalsoc.org
http://www.medicirc.org
Anti (infant) Circumcision sites:
http://www.nocirc.org
http://www.circumstitions.com
http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org
Generally, those who endorse circumcision do so on either medical or religious grounds (or both). Those who are against routine male neonatal circumcision argue medical claims to the operation stating that no major health organization in the world recommends the surgery as a routine norm.
Those who are pro circumcision argue for many possible health benefits. It is common thought (particularly in America) that male circumcision promotes easier hygiene. This belief is based on the fact that there are fewer creases in the circumcised penis and that a man does not have to go through the hassle of manually retracting his foreskin in order to clean the area that normally lies underneath it. Those against circumcision maintain that it is simple to clean an uncircumcised penis, as well. Modern hygiene products make it quick and easy to cleanse under the foreskin.
Individuals who promote neonatal circumcision argue that medical research has indicated that indicated a decreased risk of urinary tract infections in circumcised males. The risk of urinary tract infections in the first year is low, but these infections may be several times as common in uncircumcised baby boys (AAP, 2009). Nonetheless, those against the operation argue that chances for the infection are still very low, at 0.9% of uncircumcised infants contracting an infection in the first year of life and rates decreasing from there.
Those who are in favor of circumcision argue for the prevention of penile problems. Occasionally, the foreskin on an uncircumcised penis may be difficult or impossible to retract (phimosis) (AAP, 2009). Those who argue against the operation state that most problems with phimosis either fade with time argue in favor of milder methods of treatment such as the forced retraction of the foreskin slightly every day over a period of months, which is reported to be painless.
Decreased risk of penile cancer is also something that is a reported benefit of circumcision. Although cancer of the penis is rare, it's less common in circumcised men (AAP, 2009). Oddly enough, in countries that do not routinely practice circumcision (Japan and most European nations), penile cancer rates are lower than in America (The Circumcision Reference Library, 2009). To further arguments, those who do not support circumcision also stress the extreme rarity of penile cancer.
The most avid circumcision supporters argue for the decreased risk of sexually transmitted diseases. Safe sexual practices remain essential, but circumcised men may have a slightly lower risk of certain sexually transmitted diseases — including HIV, the virus that causes AIDS (The Mayo Clinic, 2009). Studies have not been robust or conclusive enough for major health organizations to begin supporting the operation, which is the main counter-argument of those who are against it. Other arguments for circumcision include religious ones and the desire for a child to look like his father who is circumcised. Some parents fear that their child will be scorned for his uncircumcised penis.
Those who are against neonatal circumcision stress the surgical risks involved in the operation. Excessive bleeding and infection are uncommon, but possible. The foreskin may be cut too short or too long or fail to heal properly. If the remaining foreskin reattaches to the end of the penis, minor surgery may be needed to correct it. Complication rates ranging from 0.06% to 55% have been cited, though experts predict between 3 and 6 % actually experience true complications (Canadian Medical Association , 1996).
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics' 1999 Circumcision Policy Statement, “There is considerable evidence that newborns who are circumcised without analgesia experience pain and psychological stress.”(AAP, 1999) This is another focus of those against the operation. Local anesthesia can block nerve sensations during the procedure (Mayo clinic, 2009), but the infant still cries and it is unknown what he is actually feeling. The healing process after the surgery is also painful for the infant.
As stated before, those who are against routine male circumcision stress that no national or international medical association recommends routine circumcision as a worldwide norm. That said, the World Health Organization (WHO) does state “WHO/UNAIDS recommendations emphasize that male circumcision should be considered an efficacious intervention for HIV prevention in countries and regions with heterosexual epidemics, high HIV and low male circumcision prevalence. Male circumcision provides only partial protection, and therefore should be only one element of a comprehensive HIV prevention package.” (WHO, 2009)
Lastly, many believe that the foreskin is a normal, protective, functioning organ that should not be removed and that circumcision denies a male's right to genital integrity and choice for his own body.
Both arguments present facts that can be used to strengthen each case. Considering that this is a subject involving human infants, emotions run high and each argument has the potential to become unprofessional as a result.
The evidence that male circumcision at infancy is medically beneficial is debatable and inconclusive. It seems that each argument in favor of the procedure has an equally convincing counter comment from the opposing argument that makes points in favor seem less significant. Evidence against the procedure tends to be more emotional in nature but also present a valid argument.
I believe that most parents want what they feel is best for their child and that parenting comes along with many decisions that can be quite difficult to make. Furthermore, I think that it is a staple of good parenting to make any and all decisions based on research, gathered facts, and evaluation. The opinions of a single health care provider or family members should play a lesser role. Practices need to be questioned because in spite of their popularity, common decisions are not always the right decisions.
While researching this issue, I focused on finding empirical articles and governmental/health sites that would give me access to the most accurate information. Warning signs that indicated that perhaps I should not include the site in my analysis were an abundance of emotion, accusations, and opinionated remarks. These sites were avoided.
I found the AAP (and other governmental equivalents such as Australia’s RACP) to have the most accurate and trustworthy information. They seemed generally unbiased and provided facts that influenced my final decision. Their closing statement on the subject of circumcision was that “Existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision; however, these data are not sufficient to recommend routine neonatal circumcision.” This statement helped me to solidify my opinion on the matter.
I cannot say that this research has swayed my beliefs either way. I knew quite a bit from my own personal internet meanderings when I was trying to decide about whether or not to circumcise my own son. Before that, however, I assumed there was a good reason behind the operation—I just didn’t know what it was. Now that I have more information, I have made my own decisions through my own research and that makes me more confident about my decisions as a parent.
After researching the different positions surrounding routine male circumcision at infancy, I think that each side has made some legitimate points. There are some slight health benefits to male circumcision. I do, however, agree with those who say that the risks involved in the operation, the trauma associated with it, and lack of solid evidence as to the validity of some purported health benefits al serve to tip the balance against the operation.
Furthermore, I find moral issues with neonatal male circumcision. It is the removal of an entire body part and the child has absolutely no say in whether or not he wants it to be done. In fact, videos that I downloaded which showed the operation indicate that the infant doesn’t agree with the process of foreskin removal at all.
In the end, I understand that there are benefits and risks associated with both sides of the argument and that it can feel like a no win situation for parents. I wouldn’t look down my nose at a parent making an educated decision about what to do with his or her child. As I stated previously, however, I do not believe that any practice should go unquestioned. Parents should know the facts before making their decisions.
Works Cited
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). (2009). Circumcision: Information for Parents. Retrieved November 21, 2009 from http://www.circumstitions.com/AAP-bro.html
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). (2009). Circumcision Policy Statement. Retrieved 21 November 2009 from http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;103/3/686
DeLaet, D. L. (2007). Framing Male Circumcision as a Human Rights Issue?: Contributions to the Debate Over the Universality of Human Rights. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://www.allacademic.com/meta/p179332_index.html
Fetus and Newborn Committee. (1996). "Neonatal circumcision revisited". Canadian Medical Association Journal 154 (6): 769–780. Retrieved on 29 November 2009 from http://www.cps.ca/english/statements/FN/fn96-01.htm
Harrison, Daniel. (2002). Rethinking Circumcision and Sexuality in the United States. Vol 5. Sage Publications. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://sexualities.sagepub.com.pegleg.park.edu/cgi/reprint/5/3/300
The Circumcision Reference Library. (2008). United States Circumcision Incidence. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://www.cirp.org/library/statistics/USA/
The Mayo Clinic. (2009). Pros and Cons of Circumcision. Retrieved on 22 November 2009 from http://www.mayoclinic.com/
The Royal Australasian College of Physicians (RACP). (2009). Policy Statement On Circumcision. Retrieved on 29 November 2009 from http://www.racp.edu.au/index.cfm?objectid=D7FAA93E-E091-4209-15657544BA419672
Wallerstein, E. (2008). Circumcision: The Uniquely American Medical Enigma. Retrieved on 21 November 2009 from http://www.cirp.org/library/general/wallerstein/
World Health Organization (WHO). (2009). Retrieved on 29 November 2009 from http://www.who.int/hiv/topics/malecircumcision/en/index.html
Monday, January 4, 2010
Tick. . . . . . . tock. . . . . . etc
My past two nights have been spent in certainty that I am going into labor. By the end of each day, I have BHCs every couple of minutes, and by the time that I am off to bed, they've gotten rather painful. My body is teasing me, though, because a few hours with my feet up cure all labor symptoms. The fact that I can't sleep anymore seems to be irrelevant. My 39 week appointment is tomorrow, but I don't think they'll be able to tell me anything. I am a bit unwilling to have any internal exams done. I have heard of women being 3 or 4 cm dilated for weeks, so I'll forgo the intrusion and possible disappointment. I am not desperate enough to give birth (yet) that 5 mile walks and nipple clamps hold any appeal. I just wish I could bend over without getting a mouth/nose full of stomach acid. At this point, I have some strong arguments for the folks who sing of the beauty of pregnancy.
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